…and how might your gift be getting in the way of your impact, happiness, or success?

Whether you’re a founder, a leader, a coach, or a blend of all three, there’s likely something you love to offer the world.

• Maybe it’s creating collaborative teams where people feel valued and inspired.
• Maybe it’s helping others grow their confidence or presence.
• Maybe it’s solving complex problems and bringing clarity.

When we discover work that we love to do, it can feel like we have found the answer that we need to share with the world. But have you ever asked yourself where that purpose came from?

Was there a pain in your past, or your family’s that this purpose might have healed?
Is there a familial loyalty to a certain way of being that you now share through your work?
Or did a role or environment unwittingly shape you into the helper you’ve become?

Bert Hellinger, founder of Systemic Constellations, once said “Have no intention, especially to help.”

When we lead with our gift, we are often unconsciously be trying to fix something in our past, by working on the people in our future, secretly judging those with different priorities and capabilities.

We might ask ourselves, are we helping in this way because this is really the help that is needed or because we need to help this way?

In systemic coaching, we cultivate the awareness to pause, to lean back rather than lean in.
We observe. We listen. We surface what’s been excluded or unseen before reaching for our toolkit.

When we do this, we can hear the deeper tensions beneath requests like “build leadership gravitas” or “make us more agile.”
We start to see where the system itself longs for balance and where responsibility truly belongs.

Working at this level, we move from fixing problems to restoring flow, and healing systems.

We stop frustratingly chasing recurring issues… and start creating lasting impact.

At Agile Principles, we are experts in supporting leaders to listen to the systems shaping their results on deeper levels, so that they too create transformative results.